Career Transition Is A Privilege- Gratitude This Memorial Day

memorial-day-2First, I wanted to wish you a Happy Memorial Day! I’ve been thinking a lot about gratitude this week—gratitude towards the men and women who served our country and gratitude to have the freedom of choice.

Career transition can cause a lot of anxiety, yet we often forget that it is a privilege to live in a country that allows for career transition.

I remember spending seven months working in India after college and many people had no occupational choice because of their birth status. If someone was born as a commoner, peasant or servant, there was very little chance of moving up in society.

I don’t want to negate anyone’s anxiety or frustration around life transition whether it be professional or personal, I just want to provide a small reminder of how lucky we are to have these dilemmas opposed to fearing for our safety or other basic needs.

I hope you have a wonderful holiday with friends, family and loved ones. If you served our country, thank you. Once again, happy Memorial Day!

Every Successful Person Has To Jump

quote-if-you-want-to-be-successful-you-have-to-jump-there-s-no-way-around-it-when-you-jump-steve-harvey-82-35-08As a career coach, when I talk to potential clients, the most common career fear that I hear is that they feel like they’re jumping off a cliff into the unknown.

Additionally, when I talk to former clients who have made a successful career change, they often say that they feel much happier but were surprised at the continuous inner work they’ve had to confront.

I totally get it. I’ve made three major changes in my career including starting my own business. And even now, I still feel like I’m jumping off the cliff into the unknown almost every day.

For some reason our minds want us to believe that once we do the work to make a change, that we are going to remain in some type of blissful state and remain there. The reality is that our lives are constantly changing at that we have to continue to jump off the cliff into the unknown in order to evolve.

I watched an incredible clip by Steve Harvey from Family Feud yesterday in my business class about the need to make a jump in order to soar in life. He brought up a compelling point, if you never jump, you’ll never know what it is to live in life’s abundance.

Watch this video TODAY! This talk definitely has some religious overtones (it’s Steve Harvey after-all), but it’s short, sweet and impactful.

I’ll leave you with this quote: “We have to continually be jumping off cliffs and developing our wings on the way down.” -Kurt Vonnegut

Living Your Purpose Takes Work!

LakeIf you walk around my house, I have laminated affirmations taped to the light switches, mirrors and picture frames. They state anything from, “You can do it!’ to “Trust.”

I’m also known by my friends on Facebook to constantly post motivational quotes- probably to the point of cheesy annoyance.

I do this as a reminder to myself to live in my purpose on a daily basis. It takes work to live a purposeful life and to remain intentional and present.

I began the process of uncovering my life’s purpose four years ago during a meditation class lead by the amazing intuitive, Bobby Wood. Through a series of events, my life purpose became crystal clear and now I help others build their confidence and step into their purpose through my career coaching practice.

For some reason, I thought that once I identified my life’s purpose, I’d become enlightened and float among the earth in a blissful state.

This notion was furthest from the truth. If anything, I learned that living out my life purpose takes tons of work.

If I wake up having a shitty morning, just because I know my life’s purpose and have a career that I love doesn’t take away from the fact that I experience pain and sadness.

I’ve also realized that gurus, spiritual teachers and masters who dedicate their life to the enlightenment of others spend their entire existence teaching, living and breathing that enlightenment.

Most of us ordinary folks are not in careers that reinforce our life’s purpose nor do they support the idea of remaining in a state of blissful enlightenment. The buzz of an urgent email or the stacks of paperwork quickly snaps us out of it.

So the idea that even if you uncover your career calling or live our your purpose through your career does not mean your going to be in a constant state of bliss. It’s going to take work.

There will be tons of times where you have no control over the actions of others or the life circumstances around you. All you have control over is to choose actions and activities that reinforce the well-being of your inner state.

So whether it’s affirmations pasted around your house, mantras that help you meditate, sharing inspiring posts on Facebook, a good workout during your lunch break or a simple stroll around the block…if any of these actions help you remain mindful and live out your purpose, God bless you and go do it!

3 Reasons Why ‘Play’ is Essential When Changing Careers

boy-477013_640“All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.”- Proverb, Unknown.

I hate to admit this, but I became dull recently. Several weeks ago I was working around the clock on a re-branding project for my business. Even though I was getting through the technical aspects of setting up my website, my creativity slowly became stifled.

I also noticed that my connections with colleagues, friends and loved ones were limited because I was constantly working and when I wasn’t, all I was talking about was work. Yes, I officially felt myself becoming dull.

This recent experience took me back to my job transition five years ago. I worked 10-hour days and would come home and apply for jobs. It was a cycle of misery for months on end until I decided to change things up and stop applying.

I started a Meetup group instead and began organizing young professional networking events and it was a blast! I met new people and got connected to businesses and nonprofits, one in which hired me to run their young professional networking events.

Over the course of one month, I transitioned into a job that I loved all because I decided to do something that I enjoyed and came natural to me.

Now as a career coach, I see my clients get into the application grind (believe me… I get it) and I highly encourage them to play to get out of it and here’s why:

1. Play provides insight to what you love to do-

If you love building things in your free time, there’s a good chance you’ll love doing something similar in your career. Some people will decide that their play remains a hobby, while others will incorporate it into their work. Either way, play can provide insight to how you think, problem solve and jobs and responsibilities you might enjoy in your career. 

One of my former clients loved tinkering in his garage and building things. He also enjoyed learning anything web-based or technical in his previous career. When we started working together, he decided to take a free class on website development because he thought it would be fun. Eventually, he decided to go back to school and get a certification in web development.

2. Play gives you something else to think about than your job search-

Play allows you to take your mind off of things for a little while. It gives you a break from the tiring job search and hard work you put into your current role. Most job changers who add play and travel into their repertoire, go back to their current role with more enthusiasm and more gusto in their job search. Moreover, it breaks any cycles of anxiety or depression that can come with major life changes.

3. Play increases your connection with other people-

While going through a career transition, more than anything we need to feel connected and supported. There is more to you than just your work and talking about it. Play provides opportunity to share experiences, connect and network with other people. Recently, I had a client who got connected to a job opportunity through a person he met through a Meetup group he attends for fun.

And if you’re struggling to figure out how to play…

…think back to the activities you enjoyed during childhood and lost all sense of time. If you enjoyed legos, go purchase an erector set or join a Meetup group that involves woodworking. If you enjoyed performing, consider joining an improv group or acting class.

How to Overcome Impostor Syndrome While Networking

Many times I hear from clients that they feel they are faking it when going to networking events. I get it!

When I first started my business, I felt like an impostor. I still was trying to get my processes and systems in place and I didn’t have the confidence that everything was going to work out. I would meet people and feel I had to pretend that I was already successful and this didn’t feel good.

So what is impostor syndrome? It’s a term that was coined in the 1970’s by psychologists to describe people who are unable to internalize their accomplishments.

As a career changer, you may not feel good enough to warrant someone helping you with your transition. The good news? You have the ability to over come it!

Here’s how:

1. Own Your Greatness– Even though I didn’t have all my ducks in a row, I had to remind myself that I had so much to offer. Even though I was new to private practice, I still had experience in career development and helped many others before. When I would remind myself of all my strengths and accomplishments prior to going to a networking event, my body language subconsciously communicate my confidence.

You may not have direct experience in certain areas when making a career change, but you certainly have a ton to offer such as your personality, strengths, accomplishments, talents and transferable skills. Own them!

2. A.S.K. or Always Seek the Knowledge of Others- My friend Alyce Blum, business owner and networking coach, suggests that you should enter networking situations with the intention to get to know others and ask questions.

I love this advice because most people don’t care about what you do, they care about how you make the feel- asking questions is one of the best ways to do this. It also takes away the pressure for you to feel like you have to show off.

So next time you go to a networking event, know that you have the power to turn the conversation around and ask someone about their job.

3. Practice Til You Make It– I hate the saying, “Fake it til you make it”. For me, it means that I feel I have to be fake or inauthentic until I make some obscure goal. I like the idea of practicing because it allows for authenticity, vulnerability and mistakes in the moment.

I had to practice in several different ways to help me overcome my impostor syndrome. I had to test my process and systems on several people at no cost in order to have success stories under my belt. For me, sharing stories in which I honestly felt good about my work helped me feel confident and authentic without being cocky.

So next time you go to a networking event, look at it as practice whether it be your elevator pitch, how you answer questions, posture, body language and anything else you can think of.

If you’re feeling impostor syndrome coming on, take a moment to own your greatness, turn the conversation around and ask someone about themselves and know that this is practice, not perfection.

And if you want support in overcoming your impostor syndrome while networking, join us for a free networking workshop ‘The ABC’s of networking so you can start connecting with confidence & conviction’ on Thursday, January 14th from 7-8:30 PM in Denver or Friday, January 15th from 10-11 AM online. To register, click here.