While your friends and family may have the best of intentions and genuinely care about your well-being, transitioning careers can be an emotionally charged time.
We live in a society where, after meeting someone, the second question often is, “What do you do?”—a question that can unintentionally feel like, “What is your worth?” During the holidays, questions like “Have you found a job yet?” or “Any updates?” can stir feelings of self-doubt or make you second-guess your progress.
So, how do you navigate these sensitive conversations?
1. Decide What to Share
Remember, it’s entirely up to you how much you want to disclose. You have the power to share as much—or as little—as you feel comfortable.
2. Understand the Intent
Try to listen with an open heart and understand where the person is coming from. Most people ask because they care and want to know that you’re doing okay. A simple response like, “I’m still exploring new opportunities, but I’m happy and doing alright. Thanks for asking!” can assure them without getting into details.
3. Turn It into an Opportunity
The holidays can also be a chance to network. Many people love offering advice or helping solve problems. You could say something like, “I’m currently looking for opportunities in [your field]. Do you know anyone I could speak with or places I could explore?” or “I’d appreciate any suggestions for where I can network or grow my connections.”
4. Redirect the Conversation
If you’d prefer to avoid discussing your job search altogether and simply enjoy your turkey dinner, redirect the focus. Open-ended questions like, “I’m still in the interview process. How is work going for you?” or “I’m still exploring my next steps. How’s your family?” can shift the topic in a natural way.
5. Focus on What Matters
Holidays are about connection and gratitude. Try to relax, enjoy the moment, and remember that you set the tone for conversations by how you respond. With a little preparation, you can turn these moments into an opportunity for positivity, inspiration, or simply a pleasant exchange.
Transitions are a part of life, and the holidays don’t have to add pressure—they can even become a source of support and encouragement. Happy Thanksgiving!