Career Transition Is A Privilege- Gratitude This Memorial Day

memorial-day-2First, I wanted to wish you a Happy Memorial Day! I’ve been thinking a lot about gratitude this week—gratitude towards the men and women who served our country and gratitude to have the freedom of choice.

Career transition can cause a lot of anxiety, yet we often forget that it is a privilege to live in a country that allows for career transition.

I remember spending seven months working in India after college and many people had no occupational choice because of their birth status. If someone was born as a commoner, peasant or servant, there was very little chance of moving up in society.

I don’t want to negate anyone’s anxiety or frustration around life transition whether it be professional or personal, I just want to provide a small reminder of how lucky we are to have these dilemmas opposed to fearing for our safety or other basic needs.

I hope you have a wonderful holiday with friends, family and loved ones. If you served our country, thank you. Once again, happy Memorial Day!

Every Successful Person Has To Jump

quote-if-you-want-to-be-successful-you-have-to-jump-there-s-no-way-around-it-when-you-jump-steve-harvey-82-35-08As a career coach, when I talk to potential clients, the most common career fear that I hear is that they feel like they’re jumping off a cliff into the unknown.

Additionally, when I talk to former clients who have made a successful career change, they often say that they feel much happier but were surprised at the continuous inner work they’ve had to confront.

I totally get it. I’ve made three major changes in my career including starting my own business. And even now, I still feel like I’m jumping off the cliff into the unknown almost every day.

For some reason our minds want us to believe that once we do the work to make a change, that we are going to remain in some type of blissful state and remain there. The reality is that our lives are constantly changing at that we have to continue to jump off the cliff into the unknown in order to evolve.

I watched an incredible clip by Steve Harvey from Family Feud yesterday in my business class about the need to make a jump in order to soar in life. He brought up a compelling point, if you never jump, you’ll never know what it is to live in life’s abundance.

Watch this video TODAY! This talk definitely has some religious overtones (it’s Steve Harvey after-all), but it’s short, sweet and impactful.

I’ll leave you with this quote: “We have to continually be jumping off cliffs and developing our wings on the way down.” -Kurt Vonnegut

3 Ways to Overcome the Emotional Baggage of a Bad Boss

pexels-photo-70292We’ve all had a crappy boss- whether the situation was with a supervisor, manager or client.

As a career coach, I’ve had a handful of clients who struggled to move past the emotional baggage of having a bad boss. And who did it ultimately hurt? My client.

This article doesn’t negate that your boss is responsible for his or her actions. However, it is YOUR responsibility for moving the feelings and emotional baggage that comes with having a bad boss.

You don’t want to bring that baggage into your next endeavors because the law of attraction time and again has proven that negative energy attracts negative energy. Most companies and clients want to hire someone who is positive to work with and a good cultural fit.  Even unconscious negative energy, or false positive energy can be perceived.

Here’s are  3 ways to handle the emotional baggage of a bad boss, so you can overcome and thrive in your next endeavor:

1. Journal- Write anything that comes to mind about your boss or client. Don’t judge yourself for any feelings or emotions that arise and don’t push them down either. Pain deserves to be felt.

I also share with my clients that journaling is not about writing a perfect article; it is meant just for you. If you were to open a page of my personal journal, you probably would find a stream of curse words.

2. Identify, understand and counter your negative beliefs- The actions of your supervisor or client are just actions. It’s the beliefs that you carry about yourself that impact how you interpret those actions.

  • First you need to identify your negative beliefs (e.g. I’m not good enough, I’m not worthy).
  • After, you need to figure out where they came from (most likely a childhood incident).
  • And then you need to counter them (e.g. I am good enough, I am worthy).

When you are able to hold positive beliefs about yourself, the actions of others may still hurt in the moment, but don’t make you suffer in the long run.

3. Stay connected with others- It’s easy to want to isolate from others, especially when you are feeling bullied. However, if you can spend time with supportive colleagues, family and friends, that positive connection can reinforce your self-worth. This is especially important when you are not being supported by someone who is in position of power and you need all the encouragement you can get.

Don’t let an experience with a bad boss hold you back, let it become a learning experience about you how face challenges, overcome obstacles and thrive.

Living Your Purpose Takes Work!

LakeIf you walk around my house, I have laminated affirmations taped to the light switches, mirrors and picture frames. They state anything from, “You can do it!’ to “Trust.”

I’m also known by my friends on Facebook to constantly post motivational quotes- probably to the point of cheesy annoyance.

I do this as a reminder to myself to live in my purpose on a daily basis. It takes work to live a purposeful life and to remain intentional and present.

I began the process of uncovering my life’s purpose four years ago during a meditation class lead by the amazing intuitive, Bobby Wood. Through a series of events, my life purpose became crystal clear and now I help others build their confidence and step into their purpose through my career coaching practice.

For some reason, I thought that once I identified my life’s purpose, I’d become enlightened and float among the earth in a blissful state.

This notion was furthest from the truth. If anything, I learned that living out my life purpose takes tons of work.

If I wake up having a shitty morning, just because I know my life’s purpose and have a career that I love doesn’t take away from the fact that I experience pain and sadness.

I’ve also realized that gurus, spiritual teachers and masters who dedicate their life to the enlightenment of others spend their entire existence teaching, living and breathing that enlightenment.

Most of us ordinary folks are not in careers that reinforce our life’s purpose nor do they support the idea of remaining in a state of blissful enlightenment. The buzz of an urgent email or the stacks of paperwork quickly snaps us out of it.

So the idea that even if you uncover your career calling or live our your purpose through your career does not mean your going to be in a constant state of bliss. It’s going to take work.

There will be tons of times where you have no control over the actions of others or the life circumstances around you. All you have control over is to choose actions and activities that reinforce the well-being of your inner state.

So whether it’s affirmations pasted around your house, mantras that help you meditate, sharing inspiring posts on Facebook, a good workout during your lunch break or a simple stroll around the block…if any of these actions help you remain mindful and live out your purpose, God bless you and go do it!